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One thing I have been hearing about over and over lately is couples who rush through the period of time between getting excited about trying out pegging, and the first time the actually do it.

There is so much to learn and so much to enjoy during that space of time! Not only will you really miss out if you rush through it, your initial experience with pegging might be more awkward and difficult as a result. So many ‘firsts’ happen, too! You don’t want to miss a one.

I’m big on anticipation. If I could give lovers a timeline to follow from when they share that first exciting moment of embracing the concept of pegging, feeling all that eagerness to explore, to the actual moment of insertion, it would look something like this…

  • For the next 5 or more times you have sex, explore his ass as a part of your foreplay. If you want to try rimming for foreplay, but aren’t sure about sticking your tongue in his ass, try a dental dam – they are sheer and ultra-thin – he won’t be able to tell the difference. Use fingers and plenty of lube. Gloves are optional. Take it really slow, make it a sensual experience. Stay in communication and have fun. Giggle and laugh if you feel like it. Sometimes exploring new territory is funny and it’s okay to feel nervous or self-conscious. Go so slow that he is arching his ass back to meet her fingers.
  • Around the 3rd or fourth time, once he can easily take a couple of fingers, use the beginner dildo that you bought for pegging. She can hold it in her hand and discover what angle, depth, and speed sends him to the moon. This is what she will be trying to duplicate when she straps it on.
  • Spend one evening staying in. She wears the harness while you both cook/eat dinner, watch TV, or clean the kitchen. This gets her used to putting it on and how it feels to have a cock! It also teases the fuck out of him to watch her walk around with it. Heh heh.
  • Finally – this is the night. He cleans out. He has no fear whether he can take the toy or not – he’s already had it inside him. She knows what she is aiming for after playing with the toy and her fingers. She’s used to wearing the harness and cock and knows how to put it on. The blanket is on the bed, because you’ve done this before. The lube is handy, along with a towel, and you are ready to begin pegging…

Enjoy.

  • Write and tell me how it went and I will play the music for you on my next podcast!

 

 

When budget constraints prevent you from buying the best equipment, consider buying a quality dildo and using this DIY harness while you save up for a good one. Buy once and buy quality!

Here is a visual aid for using two scarves to make a do-it-yourself harness – by Midori!

Here are her instructions, as well.

Midori’s Scarf Harness Visual Aid

 

Gentlemen

First of all…

You are not alone.

Certainly not alone in the sense of enjoying anal stimulation, and not alone in the sense of scared to tell your significant other. It can be a super scary thing, for a lot of reasons.

Telling your partner requires 3 things.

  • Communication
  • Information
  • Patience/Persistence

Communication:
Do you two talk in bed?? Do you talk about sex? Do you tell each other what turns you on and how things feel and what you fantasize about? If you don’t, start right now. If you are not used to it, at first it will be hard to open your mouth and get the words out. Communicating about sex opens doors and brings you much closer together, beside adding a bit of titillation factor to both of your sex lives!
Information:
Does your wife know that prostate massage has been proven to help with a healthy prostate?
Here’s the study
Does she know that the prostate is capable of giving intense levels of pleasure, just like her G-Spot?
Does she know that pegging doesn’t have to be like pegging porn?
Does she know that you enjoying anal stimulation says nothing about your sexual orientation?
I created a podcast just for the women, to address all of their fears and concerns. I recommend you listen to it first, because only you can decide whether it’s right for your partner. Many men have had great success with it!

Patience/Persistence
When you tell her about it, don’t present it all self-conscious like you have leukemia. Tell her you discovered something way cool – that you have another erogenous zone and you want nothing more to explore it with her. Be excited! Give her the information and then be patient for a few days. Ask again, no resentment, no impatience, just eagerness and curiosity whether she looked at the information or listened to the podcast. Be patient, but persistent. And above all, calm.

Of course you have fears! Among them…

  • She will think you are gay
  • She will think pegging will turn you gay
  • She won’t respect you in the morning
  • She will tell her/your friends

The podcast will help a lot with all of these.

Because here’s the thing…
Do you want to live the rest of your life never asking her? If she is down to try it, you could be enjoying pegging right now. And if she isn’t, then you at least asked. So many men wish they had not waited so long to ask their partners. Pegging is a very intimate act, so wouldn’t it be awesome to be doing it with the person you are the closest to in the whole world?

Now, if your partner is sexually inhibited, sexually conservative, sexually close-minded, and you only do it missionary position, no oral or anal, then perhaps it would not be a good idea to blow her out of the water with pegging. Only you can decide!

Good luck!
Ruby

Joyous Pegging

Just about every day, as the awareness of and interest in pegging sweeps around the world, I receive a question from someone full of concerns, questions, fears and most of all, misconceptions. The same themes present over and over again. While these themes can each be explored in depth, here are the short answers….

For Her…

No, he’s NOT GAY

♥ No, he does not want a man to replace you
♥ No, he does not secretly want a cock
♥ No, pegging him will not magically turn him gay
♥ He just wants you to fuck him in the ass
♥ Honest

((If he is bisexual, disregard this one)

No, it doesn’t hurt.

♥ Yes it feels good
♥ As long as you do it right
♥ Really good
♥ Honest

No, you will not look ridiculous wearing a strap-on

♥ He will think you look hot, I guarantee
♥ Are you kidding? He’s been fantasizing about this…
♥ So hot he might come just looking at you
♥ Honest

No, pegging is not like the pegging in porn

♥ No it is not humiliating
♥ No it is not degrading
♥ No he does not have to dress like a woman
♥ No you don’t have to yell at him and hit him
♥ He just wants you to fuck him in the ass
♥ Honest

(Disclaimer – if you are into any of these kinks, disregard this one)

For Him

No, you are NOT GAY

♥ No, wanting to be pegged does not make you gay
♥ No, being pegged will not magically turn you gay
♥ Yes, you still love breasts and pussies
♥ Which means you are not gay
♥ Even though you want her to fuck you in the ass
♥ It’s all okay
♥ Honest

(If you are bisexual – disregard this one)

No, it doesn’t hurt

♥ Yes. it feels good
♥ As long as she does it right
♥ Really good
♥ Honest

No, it will not compromise your masculinity

♥ Yes, she will respect you in the morning
♥ Yes, you can continue being a man’s man
♥ It’s all okay
♥ Honest

No, pegging is not like the pegging in porn

♥ No humiliation
♥ No degradation
♥ No feminization
♥ No verbal and physical abuse
♥ She really can just fuck you in the ass
♥ Without all that stuff
♥ Honest

(Disclaimer – if you are into any of these kinks, disregard this one)

So if those are all the things pegging is not, then what is pegging?

Yes, pegging is hot, hot sex

♥ Surprising Intensity
♥ Amazing Discovery
♥ Deeper Intimacy
♥ Fascinating Role Reversal
♥ Another Way to Make Love!

This message of reassurance has been brought to you by PeggingParadise.com and Pegging101.com

A podcast for the women which explores more of this in depth, as well as touching on relationship issues is available here.