Yes, there are indeed many women who love pegging. All women are different and their specific reasons for enjoying strap-on sex are as many and varied as the individual women are. Some women enjoy pegging as another tender, sensual addition to sweet lovemaking. Some like to combine it with other kinks (and those are many and varied as well). Certain themes rise to the top when women talk about why they like pegging. The vulnerability of the man. The taboo aspect. The pleasure of running the show. The fascination of sexually switching places. The deepening of intimacy.

I most definitely love pegging. I know, no surprise there!

But what is it exactly that turns my crank when I don a strap-on and peg my guy? My, my, my…so many things.

The Pleasure Principle

More than any other reason, I love to peg a man because it brings him so much pleasure. Some time ago I had the privilege of introducing a new  lover to pegging. After he came exquisitely hard in his hand while I sunk deep inside him…he gasped, “I had no idea!” I love the cause and effect of watching a man’s body react when I thrust inside him. I love the moans and gasps I can elicit. Pegging allows me to actually be inside him giving him pleasure, which is a thrill in itself; the only time in sexual play that I get to do that. But mostly…I just love to put a man in ecstasy with my strap-on.

Open up, Baby

There is a vulnerability that is necessary for a man to be penetrated. I don’t really see that with vanilla sex. A softness in his face. His eyes become a little unfocused or they close. I love that vulnerability. I love to see a man purely receptive and open…it is a rare and beautiful sight. That vulnerability makes me want to gather him in my arms and fuck him sweetly and continuously until he comes with cries of passion.

Happy at the Helm

I love…running the fuck. I am in control. I can tease him…or pound him…until he begs for release or respite. I can change the angle of my toy just a bit and know it’s driving him crazy with pleasure. Or I can stay still, buried inside him and drive him crazy with wanting more. I am wearing the dildo, so I get to decide.

Forbidden Fruit

I love the taboo aspect of it. I mean, as taboo thrills go – fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo is like the Dubai Tower of illicit sex thrills for me. But also there is the whole ass thing. Sadly, asses suffer from widespread discrimination. People who are happy to dress up their derrière  in sexy articles of clothing designed to attract widespread attention…would never think of  undressing that ass and actually taking it for a drive to see what it can do! Asses are often thought of as a dirty, nasty place that serves only one function, period. Well, let’s see…dirty? Absolutely. Which is why you wash it really, really well before you start playing with it!  Nasty? Yes! Nasty with a capital N and an exclamation mark. The juicy, titillating, throbbing, aching, fun kind of nasty. …Serves only one function? Well there are many many gay men who would beg to differ…and thankfully a growing number of straight men who have also discovered the joys of anal pleasure. *steps off soapbox*

Deliciously Dissident

Flouting  intolerant opinions is a hobby of mine. Above and beyond the ass itself, a lot people have judgments about pegging, from both sides of the dildo. If you are a man who likes pegging, clearly you must be gay…and if you are a woman who likes pegging, you wish you were a man. I love flying in the face of all those judgments and doing what I want just because I enjoy it. Sometimes I think that I gravitate towards kinkier stuff because there is a part of me that resists anyone telling me what I  should or shouldn’t do, most especially in the realm of sexual exploration. So if people view something as taboo – damn, that might be a hot thing to try! I am a bit of a rebel at heart. Does it give me a charge to know that if I told some of my friends about my proclivity for pegging, they would be shocked? Indeed it does. *smile*

The Visuals

The delectable vision of spreading those cheeks and sinking slowly into his ass…that is one of the hottest,  most amazingly arousing visuals I have ever seen….like, ever. Now I know why some of the kinkier dating sites that have amateur videos are overrun with clips of men holding a video camera pointing straight down as their cock is sinking into their woman who is on her hands and knees…I get it, guys! And from a different position, the look on his face when I am stroking my strap-on in and out…that surprised naked passion sort of OMG-what-the-fuck-are-you-doing-to-me-I-love-this look. It’s incomparable. His hands reaching back to pull his ass cheeks apart. Riding me and stroking his cock. So many visuals! Who says women aren’t as visual as men! If more women tried pegging perhaps the numbers would change.

My Pleasure

Do I get pleasure? Oh yes. Oh God, yes. Dripping throbbing, aching, clenching pleasure…without a doubt. I’m playing with how to orgasm while I am actually pegging my guy. Some women do…and I want to join them in that singular pleasure. There are dildos that offer a vibe in the base that are slated for experimentation…I’ll let you know how it goes. Might take a lot of practice…I don’t think he will mind.

Yes indeed, some women love pegging!.

Ruby Ryder

45 Comments

  1. As a man who’s never been pegged, or in fact never lost his virginity, I’m interested in pegging because I like the idea of a woman making it about what she wants.

    I’m not actually sexually attracted to women’s bodies at all and we live in a world where women’s bodies are given far too much spotlight and stress. Or in the porn world, it’s always about hot women. And it’s never about what the women want, it’s always about what men want.

    I like the idea of having a loving relationship with a woman who, in the bed room, makes it about what she wants, and my body is the object of desire. This isn’t to say pegging would take over the sex-life. I can do top.

    • I find it interesting that you like the idea of loving relationship with a woman who makes sex about what she wants…but you are not attracted to women’s bodies. Not sure how that would work. Many men enjoy being objectified as well as experiencing the woman taking control and running things. I guess I see physical attraction as a necessary component.

    • I Love getting pegged by a hot young sexy blonde girl in her 20’s !!

      • Yeah – good luck with that. Very few women in their 20’s know how to manage pegging or are interested in it. Look for the cougars! (Of course I say this with a certain prejudice…)

  2. I am glad I found your blog!

    You described so accurately how I feel about pegging. *giggles*
    More men and women should try it!

    It is so amazing, to see your man in that vulnerable position and to be able to give him so much pleasure…
    I think above all what is most important is that trust and communication are maintained as top priority in a situation like this. I understand how much it takes for man to give his ass up 😉 It is a delicate matter, especially at first.

    Frankly, I find it adorable in so many ways. I feel empowered as a woman as well. It is a liberating experience. Funny thing is that I never even thought about doing it, it just stemmed from a lot experimenting. If you have a partner with an open mind that respects you and trusts you and vice versa, the adventures you’ll ending having together will be PRICELESS.

    • Love your enthusiasm that comes through so clearly in your words…Completely agree about communication being an essential component.
      You sound like you are having so much fun together! I know just how you feel… 😉

  3. Wow. On a whim I decided to search google for “girls who like to peg”. Soooo glad I found this site. Its not something that usually comes up in conversation (LOL) and it really is my ultimate fantasy. I’ve never done it but would totally LOVE to peg a man. Thanks for the helpful info.

    • You are a rare woman. There are not that many women who natural fantasize about pegging a man. Have fun perusing the information here and let me know if you have any questions!

      • So I’m a man how always liked some anal play, a finger here and there, I have an amazing sex life with my wife and we are both supper attracted to each other after like over 15 years.
        We have expanded our sex life, it kind of strarted one night when I was on my back and she was on top just kissing, I wrapped my legs around her wast and she began to push her clit in to me in a fuc…ing motion, she grabbed hold of my and started to take control the look in her eyes, I had never see before, I felt something I had never felt in the bed room, vunlerable I easily gave up control to her, we moved on to her buying a dildo, one that is designed for both, part that enters her so she can feel her moves, she easily took control
        We didn’t do it dogie stile, we made sure to face each other locking eyes, she was in total control she moved slow and moved faster when she wanted, she held me tight in her arms, she whisper as she pushed deep shiiii it’s ok I have you, and she did have me, we did this off and on mixing it with our already great sex, but then something changed, not sure what. She said she didn’t want to do that any more, I have total respect and love for her so we ended that part of our sex life. Now when we have sex, she puts her self in the position and puts my legs wrapped around her, she still dose the acted but with no dildo. I know she really enjoined it, I think more then me, but there’s something holding her back? I said to her the last time we made love as my legs wrapped around her I wish you still had “that” I know she replied I want to be in you so bad right now, ??? I know she wants to have this in our sex life just not sure what holding her back,

    • Would love to give this a go It is a huge fantasy of mine!

      • I hope you find someone to live out that fantasy with!

        • Thanks, I afraid it will remain a fantasy. Those type of women are very rare and far in between

          • But they are out there…I will think good thoughts for you that you’ll find one.

          • Have you brought this up to your wife/girlfriend? You’d be surprised how many women are acceptable to this. Not saying they all are though so tip toe around it at first.

    • One of my fantasy is to be dominated by a woman in bed?
      Update : .sometime i doesn’t feel good always being in control . this just my opinion man should relax let your women play the man sometime do what she wants fulfil your dream in bed

  4. As a thoroughly heterosexual man who enjoys pegging, I applaud your site. I have always enjoyed anal play, both to give and receive and find your site enjoyably liberating. You can pass the word on to the ladies that their men will like it, if they are mature enough to get past their limitations. My woman certainly has voiced her enjoyment of the act, both visually and psychologically. Biologically we are built with a significant degree of sensitivity in the anus and as a result, it feels absolutely amazing. My only lament is that my beautiful, sexy woman does not physically orgasm with me. On that note, thanks for the other article about the failure of the strapless version. We had considered it before going to the more conventional version.

    • Hi! Glad to hear you are enjoying the site.
      Some women can orgasm during pegging but most cannot – just like some women can orgasm during intercourse but most cannot. Just be happy she’s enjoying pegging you, regardless of whether she orgasms or not! And as for the strapless dildos – the only failure is that they claim to be strapless – used with a harness they are quite stimulating! The flared-base model is a great place to start, though – good that you have that model.

  5. My fiancee and I started experimenting a few months ago. I didn’t think she was interested at first. Now she is buying toys and pegging me. I think she likes the power/control because she will look at me like a piece of meat that’s only there to please her. I like being objectified and controlled and told what to do. She just decided to spend money on female clothes for me. She said she needs me to be her bitch a few times a month. Lol. And to think when I first brought this topic up I was afraid she’d be mad!

    • Congratulations on having the courage to tell your fiancée what you wanted! Sounds like you two are having all kinds of fun!!!

  6. Ruby,
    At the bottom of this article you ask, “do I get pleasure?” And you state that their are dildos that have vibrators in the base so women receive pleasure. So I’ve been doing research on pegging and want my woman to have the best experience possible. I’ve showed her your site and she has been reading through it and both of us have found it to be very informative. We are interested in getting a strapless dildo and a harness for it. Ive read that you suggest the tango, and that your harness has a pocket for a vibrator(at least i think this is you). Ive also heard of a couple that use the Fun Factory Share with the We Vibe and they love it. So far i feel these are very good options for providing pleasure. I’ve also been looking into the OhMiBod Club Vib 2.OH or the blueMotion, do you think this would fit in a harness pocket or is their a better option? From your experience is their enough room between the clit and the strapless dildo to even fit a vibrator? Im sorry if this is the wrong spot to ask, i just want to find out/reseach what is the best way of providing stimulation to the person I love who is about to do the same for me through pegging. Thank you.

  7. Love the Pegging thoughts. Women just reading your thoughts and expressed comments should want to peg their man. I hope what you wrote can get out there for the masses of women to read. Go Pegging.
    My wife loves anal sex, LOVES it. She sees no reason a man wouldn’t love it just as much. More with the prostate…. One question on another subject, Have you heard of a woman’s mouth going ice cold as she orgasm’s? My wifes mouth turns to ice. it must drop in temp. by 30 degrees instantly. An thoughts… Thanks. Keep up the hard work.

    • Never heard of the temperature drop – have you googled it?

      • I have. A couple of people talk about it but it seems everyone blows them off, I know for fact it happens yet it seems impossible that it does with a core temp of 98.6, She orgasms, her mouth gets freezing cold. There is no hiding if i did my job or not.
        I wish you the best. Thanks.

  8. Ruby, I can’t say I enjoy this site but I am glad you give real advice, nowhere else to turn. My bf and I are having some problems with pegging. I agreed to do it once and hated it completely. I thought once I gave in and at least tried (like I’ve noticed you tell so many women to do) he would at least respect me for trying. Wrong. He talks about it constantly, even more than bjs or vaginal. I wasn’t really turned off by the anal stimulation itself, but the fact that he loved sucking on a dildo really bothered me, that’s taking it a lot further than just stimulation, that’s wanting to suck d*** which is very gay-curious.

    So please Ruby as much as you want to tell women this lifestyle is healthy and normal they need to understand that once you open Pandora’s box, you can’t close it and you might not like what you find out. Finding out your bf enjoys sucking and taking something that for all purposes is a penis can be a huge turnoff, especially if it interests him more than a vagina.

    • Ariel, Thank you very much for leaving a comment here. I’m sorry to hear that your first time of pegging did not go as well as you both hoped it would, and seemed to be very upsetting for you. Perhaps I can help.

      My response is going to be pretty long, and I am going to post this on my other blog, the front page of this one, as well as talk about it on my next podcast, because it’s so important for my listeners to hear. There are definitely other women out there who have had experiences just like you did; you’re not the only one.

      I hope you find this information useful. Please understand that pegging isn’t for everyone, and it might not be for you. I’m not trying to talk you into it. Just trying to show you the other side of the picture a little, to hopefully help you understand (what I think is) his point of view.
      Here’s the post.

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  13. My 50 y.o. Girlfriend has been pegging me for four years. We started with ass play fingers and small dildos that in all reality were kind of uncomfortable, so we got a cyberskin dildo 8″x 5″. We have two nights a week that we call anal nights. Either I do her or she does me and at times we do each other. I can see how much she enjoys taking complete control over the bedroom. She’s really mastered the strapon and she knows what makes me go completely insane, from teasing my ass with the head of that soft feel realistic dildo to taming me when is time to do so, and doing me slow when it is also time. Usually that goes before the taming me deep. She also has made me give her a blow job as I use her pussy with a large dildo cause that’s the sexy part of our kink – pussy stretching and serious ass fucking. We have grown together more fantasies looking at other people masturbate, is all in good health.

    • Sound like you two are having a LOT of fun!

      • Yes we do and I have the pics and vids to prove it lmao. We have experienced a lot together experimented w large very large toys in her pussy and average toys size in her asshole as she take me as well with average size toy when she’s pegging me. We also enjoy watching women and men masturbate it does not matter who’s doing it we make the best of it and enjoy and get off watching. So hot.

  14. As a male i enjoyed this type of role reversal with my wife. It actually benefited me later when i was gang raped by police in a foreign country. I did not suffer, and in fact enjoyed the helplessness. My wife loves to discuss it when she pegs me now.

    • What an amazing story. I have heard of people eroticizing traumatic experiences to help heal them, but in your case it sounds like your prior experience prevented the trauma and, incredibly, made it enjoyable. I’m so glad you were spared what could have been a horrific experience. And, instead, loved it!

      • Thanks for being supportive ruby. Women seem to be much more understanding. Without my Wife’s prior domination, I would have been torn apart. Arousal is the key to avoiding Physical, not necessarily Psychological damage from forced sex.

        • M – I would imagine the psychological damage took some time to recover from, but thank goodness you were okay physically.

  15. Are there any websites for men who like being pegged

  16. I’m married, both of us in our 40’s. I’m straight never had any interest in men but the thought of my wife pegging me is sort of hot. How would I approch to topic?

  17. so-into-pegging

    I’ve been married for 9 years now and me and my wife tried out so many things just to spice up the sex life. Not that it needed any but if it’s going good why not make better? So I brought up the idea of pegging and the wife was keen on trying it out. Which I am very glad she did. Started out the small size strap on for the beginners and she just loved it. After several times we decided to go bigger… Bigger is better. I see now why women have these debates. There is no words to describe the look on her face when she penetrates me as I’m laying on my back. She loves to take control of every opportunity and by control I mean really pounding away with her hands on my hips.

  18. did u ever delve into your experimentation to find ways to orgasm while pegging? my wife loves pegging me. she loves the fantasy fulfillment, domination and role reversal aspects of it. but, she doesn’t get sexual satisfaction in terms of an orgasm. we have the tango, and she was initially using it with the spare parts joque harness. she got off like that the first time, but she says that trying to keep the tango in her and me at the same time is too complicated and distracting. i’m curious to know if there are other options that may be more fulfilling for her that aren’t overly complicated and only require simplistic coordination on her part.

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