Let’s explore what makes you orgasm while pegging. Inquiring minds want to know, including your partners, beginners, other women who peg, and their partners!
Engaging in pegging gets me so hot that I’m dripping, but I am typically more about the orgasm that I give my partner than about me getting off. That’s the way I am built sexually. I love to give pleasure. We are all special snowflakes when it comes to our sexuality. Some women (like me) focus on giving pleasure. Others enjoy pegging men for their own pleasure, not caring about his. Some women are adept at the multi-tasking that men usually perform during PIV, and they can get themselves and their partner off. Some women come easily while pegging. Others never will. All of this depends on responsiveness of the participants, toys, technique, positions, and many other things.
Responsiveness plays a huge role in women’s orgasms during pegging, almost equal to the mental factor! Some women can get off just from the pressure of the base of the dildo against their clitoris. Of course this requires a good fitting harness that will securely hold the dildo low enough to cover the vulva and stimulate the clit. Some women get off easily because the thought of what they are doing is just so fucking hot. Some women need a Magic Wand level of clitoral stimulation to get off, and struggle to orgasm while pegging. So what are some of the factors that provide her pleasure?
Dildo Options for Her Pleasure
Every woman’s vagina is different! The various sizes and shapes of bulbs (the end that goes in her) will vary in comfort for each woman. There is no one size fits all. Here’s an article that compares doubles.
Double ended dildos can offer excellent G-spot stimulation. Although there is not a lot of in and out thrusting motion from the bulb end that fits inside her, there is definitely some movement as well as excellent pressure when fucking him. When that pressure hits the G-Spot just right, it feels amazing! For women who orgasm more easily from clitoral stimulation (or a combination of both clitoral and G-Spot) the best double with a vibe option is the Fuze Tango, with the We-Vibe Tango Mini Vibe. Rumbly and not buzzy, this mini vibe is the strongest, rechargeable, and waterproof. It has 8 different vibe choices (three speeds and 5 patterns). Though it doesn’t insert flush into the vibe pocket space, it will never get in the way, and makes it easier to remove for cleaning.
Keep in mind that Doubles require harnesses for 95%+ women who use them, despite the ‘strapless’ claim of many manufacturers. Read more about that here: The Truth About Strapless Strap-ons. Also, many women find that using a double to begin with is difficult, because they need to learn how to fuck first. The learning curve can feel pretty steep for beginners. Of course practicing and getting good at it is quite fun!
The best clitoral vibe option for a single flare-base dildo is also made by Fuze (what can I say, those Canadians have it down). Their entire line of Fuze Singles, the Velvet, Harmony, Alpha and Wilde all have well placed vibe pockets to hold the We-Vibe Tango.
There are many other dildos made with a hole in the base to insert a vibe as well. Women who need medium to strong clitoral stimulation report that the vibration is insufficient with these models, but some women love them. The We-Vibe Tango may not fit in the dildos with a hole in the base, requiring a shorter bullet vibe instead.
When choosing a dildo with the idea of her clitoral stimulation in mind, think about what she enjoys. If she likes to get off with a motion of pressing against him to increase the vibe on her clit, be sure to choose a dildo that isn’t too long so that she can be in to the hilt (when the best vibe pressure can be obtained) and it is not too deep for him. Nothing worse than needing to push hard against him to get off but not being able to do so because the dildo is uncomfortable when it is in that deep.
The dildo vibe option is great for women who like to fuck with enthusiasm, because there is a cushioning layer of silicone between her clit and the hardness of the vibe. Vigorous thrusting is still comfortable!
Harness Options For Her Pleasure
There are a variety of harnesses with pockets to hold bullet vibes. Spare Parts Harnesses (the Joque, Sasha, Bella and Tomboi) all have two pockets for bullet vibes, above and below the O-ring on the back face of the front harness piece. Using the We-Vibe Tango (which I firmly believe is the best mini vibe in the world) will not work because it’s too long. Regular bullet vibes will work, and you can decide which pocket gives you the most stimulation, or consider using both!
The Sportsheets Plus Size Harness has a vertical pocket for the bullet, which works better, allowing the vibe to nestle in between your vaginal lips, in which case the We-Vibe Tango will work great!
Using the vibe pockets with bullets may reduce the amount of vigorous thrusting you can do, because you basically have a hard metal or plastic vibe between you and the base of the dildo. But some women don’t need as much pressure, and are more sensual peggers, so the pockets work great.
Other Harness Options
If you are a woman loves something in her ass, and you have a two strap harness like the Jaguar or the Minx, the Aslan Leather Double Up Cuff allows you to use a nice butt plug, like the Tantus Ryder or the vibrating Je Joue Nuo, which is an amazing toy all by itself (remote and long distance phone app controlled vibrations). You can enjoy the feeling of your ass being filled while you fuck your partner! You could even give him the remote to the Nuo if you wanted to….
The Double Up Cuff can be purchased as an extra for the Jaguar, but already comes with the Minx. It should work with any 2 strap harness that you own, provided you can detach the straps.
The positions women prefer vary widely, and seem to have a large mental/visual component. One of my favorite positions for my own stimulation is laying down full length on top of my face down partner and slowly thrusting into his ass (even better if he’s got a Liberator Ramp under his ass). I do have a dominant streak, so that plays into my fantasies, like I am holding him down and he has no choice. Other women find that it’s the most exciting laying on their backs while their partner rides them, simply because the visual is so fucking hot. Doggie style can feel like the ultimate power trip and be extra stimulating mentally, too. Or consider this, if you are a woman who literally gets off because he gets off, you will want the position that produces an orgasm for him, which can trigger yours.
Foreplay Before You Start Pegging
Another consideration to help you achieve orgasm during pegging relates to what you do before you start! Engage in extended foreplay, kissing, and nipple stimulation. Have your partner give you oral sex, fingering or intercourse before you start. But he can’t come if he fucks you! He will lose interest in getting pegged…. 🙁
Other ‘before you start’ options include watching porn together, abstinence for a few days prior to pegging, and even edging for a few days before, too. All those can help!
Men Love to Feel a Woman Orgasm from Pegging Them
Many men talk about how hot it feels when a woman lets go and moves for her own pleasure instead of his. Many also say that the hottest thing ever is when a woman comes from pegging them. So this isn’t only about your orgasm, your partner will enjoy you getting off, too. That’s worth working towards. Practicing is such fun!