This is a common and perfectly acceptable question from newbies. I hear it all the time. The answer, however, is pretty darn complicated. There are many things to consider when buying equipment for the first time. I finally recorded a podcast that details all the considerations that need to be made when purchasing pegging equipment for the very first time. Click on the link below. Feel free to write me with any questions you have! You can contact me at Ruby@PeggingParadise.com
Strap-less Strap-ons, Harness-less Strap-ons, Double-enders or Doubles.
I’ve seen them referred to as all of the above. There are a number of manufacturers who makes these babies and they vary quite a bit. Let’s take a look at what’s out there….
The Feeldoe is perhaps the most well known and has a smooth shiny finish. They also manufacture the Realdoe, which basically looks more realistic in color and shape and has a matte finish. The Feeldoe is offered in varying sizes; Classic, Slim, Stout and More. The Realdoe is offered only in Classic and Slim (same measurements). Both models are offered with vibes and without. The vibes are not strong but some women enjoy them. The material used is 100% silicone. These dildos are quite firm – too firm for some users who prefer a softer, more gentle anal experience. The firmness of the toy does make penetration easier, however and can also make it easier to stimulate the prostate effectively. Some say the angle is not quite right for pegging. (Some say the angle is better for lesbian strap-on sex.) Other users have no such complaints and love their Feeldoe! The Realdoe is about the size of the Feeldoe Classic, and Realdoe Slim is about the size of the Feeldoe Slim. Made of a softer silicone than the Feeldoes, with a matte finish.
- Fun Factory Share XS
- Fun Factory Share
- Fun Factory Share XL
Fun Factory Share
The Fun Factory Share comes in 3 sizes, the regular size as well as XS and XL. The matte finish on these toys means that when it’s time to reapply lube – don’t wait because it can be irritating on the tissues rather quickly. These toys are softer, have more give to them and are a bit heavier that the Feeldoe line. Some users complain about the floppiness. They are 100% silicone. The bulb insertion is larger which presents a problem for some women but is exactly what others prefer to keep it in more effectively as well as have more sensation on their G-spot. The XL seems to be quite a challenge size-wise for most receivers!
XS – Lengths of inserted parts: active part: 3.9″ passive part: 5.5″
Diameter – peak active part: 1.37″ toy-peak passive part: 0.89″
Share – Lengths of inserted parts: active part: 3.4″ passive part: 6.3 inch”
Diameter – Toy tip active part: 1.5″ Toy tip passive part: 1.38 ”
XL – Lengths of inserted parts: active part: 3.4″ passive part: 7.1″
Diameter – Toy-peak active part: 1.49″ toy-peak passive part: 1.37″
Another softer and more flexible double-ender, the main difference between this toy vs the Share and Feeldoe is that it was never intended to stay in without a harness. It was always intended to be used with one. The Nexus is offered in 2 sizes; Senior and Junior. A vibe option is not offered. Criticisms are that it is too floppy, but some say this can be a good thing for positions that are not a “straight shot”, so to speak. This is another toy made of 100% silicone. The base of this toy where the dildos are joined can provide nice cushioning for those hard thrusting couples.
Senior: Curved side: 5-¼” x 1-¼” Straight side: 6″ x 1-¾”
Junior: Curved side: 5″ x 1-¼” Straight side: 5-¼” x 1-¼”
Happy Valley Tango
Tango – 6 3/4″ x 1 3/8″ and 4 1/2″ x 1 5/8″.
Love the name. I had not heard much about the Tango, but find that it’s sold in a couple of big name on-line retailers. Described as firmer than the Nexus but softer than the Feeldoe, some people say that the Tango takes all the best parts of the other models and puts it into one toy. This toy is 100% silicone and comes with a vibe. Can’t wait to hear more..
Update: It was time for Ruby to get a double-ended dildo and she chose the Tango. Partly for the reason that it is touted as taking the best parts of all the others. I used it with the Spare Parts Joque harness. My partner enjoyed the feel of the Tango and it was not either too firm or too floppy. The size was good for him, even though he tends to be somewhat tight.
The bulb end fit nicely inside me, not too tight or too loose. Felt great. The vibe placement was excellent. Between the G-spot stimulation from the bulb and the vibe I had a lovely time. I did remove the weak bullet vibe and replace it with a WeVibe Salsa (below). Pricey choice but an excellent one. Love that little vibe; it packs a punch! Plus it is easier to get out of the dildo because it’s a little longer. The Salsa is totally rechargeable, too. Forget about the batteries.
A Word About Bullet Vibes
The bullet vibes included with these toys are not very powerful. I recommend the rechargeable WeVibe Tango/Salsa bullet vibe (3″ x .625″)as much more powerful replacement. The Tango/Salsa is a tad larger than the standard bullet (2.25″ x .5″) and will stick out a bit, but that does not get in the way, and is actually easier to pull out of the dildo when you are done. The Tango and Salsa are the top of the line bullet vibes – strongest, rechargeable (no batteries!), 8 different vibe patterns and it’s waterproof! The difference between the two is that the Salsa has a typical rounded tip and the Tango has a lipstick contour tip.
You have probably heard me rant about this a fair amount – but I can’t write an article about double-enders without mentioning the “strapless” part. For heterosexual couples who are using double-ended dildos for pegging, which I assume most of you reading this here at Pegging Paradise are, it is very rare to not need a harness. (This apparently is not the case with lesbian strap-on sex.) So if pegging is what you are doing, just ignore all the ‘strap-less’ or ‘harness-free’ claims…and feel free to admire those fetching pictures of women wearing a double-ended dildo and nothing else, but do not take them for reality.
Why is this so? Kegel muscles, no matter how strong, cannot compete with anal sphincter muscles. In addition, when a woman gets turned on and juicy – that is one more challenge to holding the toy in. Do not fall for the “if she has strong enough Kegel muscles she can keep it in” reasoning. The vast majority of women cannot use these toys without a harness so there is no need to feel less-than or like you don’t have strong enough muscles. Needing a harness for pegging with a double-ended dildo is completely normal.
A Word About Lesser Doubles
I am not going to give serious discussion to toys like a long large jelly worm that you are supposed to stick in both people. Those toys are toxic and cannot be sterilized. Do not waste your time or money…and your health. There are a few others out there that cost less but you will likely find they are made of sub-standard materials. Do your research well if you are considering buying one. Make sure it is 100% silicone, phthalate-free and can be sterilized.
Update – there are now doubles like the jelly worms but made of silicone!!
Whichever toy you use – please write and share your story…contribute to the collection of knowledge about pegging equipment so the next group of beginners can benefit from our trial and error.
As always – happy pegging!
I’d like to put all manufacturers of double-ended dildos on notice that you are failing in your product descriptions on your websites.
Specifically – here’s where you are blowing it…
Your products are designed for a woman to insert one end of the toy inside herself and use the other end of the toy in her partner. Awesome so far. But you seem to have forgotten one important fact.
Her partner can be either male or female.
Now, who knows what the gender percentages are; I don’t believe those studies have been done yet. But to direct your advertising towards only one segment of that group is…blowing it.
How, specifically, are you blowing it?
You are making the claim on your manufacturer’s websites that your product is designed to be used without a harness without differentiating between heterosexual or lesbian use.
It could be that you don’t read the forum boards or you don’t have any heterosexual customers testing your products. Perhaps you just are too attached to the “strapless” claim. Maybe your product was really designed for lesbian strap-on sex and you just don’t care that there are hetero couples out there that might add to your sales. Or maybe you just want the initial sale and since you don’t sell harnesses you don’t really care what happens after that. I would like to believe you care more about your customers than that. After all, we are talking profits here.
You see… there are a LOT of heterosexual couples who try to use your products without a harness, fail and then seek advice.
In my estimation approximately 95% of women who are engaging in heterosexual strap-on sex – also called “pegging” – must use a harness to keep your product inside them. Why? Because anal sphincter muscles are stronger than vaginal muscles, no matter how many Kegels a woman does. Very, very few women are able to use a double-ended dildo for pegging without a harness. And yet you advertise it that way.
So couples try it, get frustrated and discover they need a harness. Sometimes these couples even give up and pegging is taken off the table completely – most often by the women – who experience most of said frustration. Sometimes these women even end up feeling “less than” because they are told that if their muscles were strong enough they could keep the toy inside them.
By the time they purchase a harness and get it right (if they indeed push past the frustration), their enthusiasm for recommending your product has lessened considerably from when they first bought it. And they may even have a touch of resentment that the advertising of your product did not mention a harness is usually essential to successful use, which alienates customers from additional purchases.
What you want is success stories with your product. Success stories boosts sales.
Happy Valley Tango says, “works perfectly with a harness”.
Not bad. But it would be better to say a harness is recommended for pegging.
Tantus’ Feeldoe/Realdoe has “patented strapless strap-on” claims all over the website. The only mention of a harness is very hard to find and says, “If you just love your leathers, or haven’t done your Kegel’s don’t fret, an old fashioned 3 strap harness will fit it! Bike shorts work wonders, too, and fittingly so since it really is like learning to ride a bike.”
Cute, but implies that most women should be able to use it without a harness. And they even say that 80% of their sales are to heterosexual couples! You’d think they would give them more accurate information since that is the bulk of their sales.
Fun Factory Share says, “without a harness”, “suitable for harnesses”, and “…slight ridge for improved hold…” depending on whether you are looking at the Share XL, the Share or the Share XS (in that order).
Confusing and inaccurate.
The less well-known doubles don’t do any better…
Eternal Swan (not in USA) says, “created to be worn without a harness”.
Ummm…for whom? Not for heterosexuals.
Fetish Fantasy Elite 8″ Strapless Strap-On says, “hands-free penetration without a harness or strap” and claims, “It’s great to use on both sexes”.
Misleading and inaccurate.
I remain puzzled by the lack of factual information for heterosexual couples exploring strap-on equipment. The couples are often new at this, so they need good information. They are also the majority of your sales – so it would behoove you to pay attention and give them what they need to make a good purchasing decision.
Thankfully, some retailers are putting more information on their websites through reviews as well as product descriptions. Hopefully the manufacturers will realize the importance of informing their customers with facts and recognizing the large share of the double dildo market that heterosexuals comprise.