Yes, there are indeed many givers who love pegging. All givers are different and their specific reasons for enjoying strap-on sex are as many and varied as the individual givers are. Some givers enjoy pegging as another tender, sensual addition to sweet lovemaking. Some like to combine it with other kinks (and those are many and varied as well). Certain themes rise to the top when givers talk about why they like pegging. The vulnerability of the receiver. The taboo aspect. The pleasure of running the show. The fascination of sexually switching places. The deepening of intimacy.

The following is my story about why I love pegging. I have also recorded two podcasts full of just givers telling their stories about why they love pegging.
Podcast #115
Podcast #175

(This article was written before the evolution of the gender binary – please excuse the gendered terms throughout)

All givers are different, but I can tell you that I definitely love pegging. So what is it exactly that turns my crank when I don a strap-on and peg my receiver?

My, my, my…so many things.

The Pleasure Principle

More than any other reason, I love to peg a man because it brings him so much pleasure. Some time ago I had the privilege of introducing a new  lover to pegging. After he came exquisitely hard in his hand while I sunk deep inside him…he gasped, “I had no idea!” I love the cause and effect of watching a man’s body react when I thrust inside him. I love the moans and gasps I can elicit. Pegging allows me to actually be inside him giving him pleasure, which is a thrill in itself; the only time in sexual play that I get to do that. But mostly…I just love to put a man in ecstasy with my strap-on.

Open up, Baby

There is a vulnerability that is necessary for a man to be penetrated. I don’t really see that with vanilla sex. A softness in his face. His eyes become a little unfocused or they close. I love that vulnerability. I love to see a man purely receptive and open…it is a rare and beautiful sight. That vulnerability makes me want to gather him in my arms and fuck him sweetly and continuously until he comes with cries of passion.

Happy at the Helm

I love…running the fuck. Control is mine (Ruby likes control…). I can tease him…or pound him…until he begs for release or respite. I can change the angle of my toy just a bit and know it’s driving him crazy with pleasure. Or I can stay still, buried inside him and drive him crazy with wanting more. I am wearing the dildo, so I get to decide.

Forbidden Fruit

I love the taboo aspect of it. I mean, as taboo thrills go – fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo is like the Dubai Tower of illicit sex thrills for me. But also there is the whole ass thing. Sadly, asses suffer from widespread discrimination. People who are happy to dress up their derrière  in sexy articles of clothing designed to attract widespread attention…would never think of  undressing that ass and actually taking it for a drive to see what it can do! Asses are often thought of as a dirty, nasty place that serves only one function, period. Well, let’s see…dirty? Absolutely. Which is why you wash it really, really well before you start playing with it! Duh! …Nasty? Yes! Nasty with a capital N and an exclamation mark. The juicy, titillating, throbbing, aching, fun kind of nasty. …Serves only one function? Well there are many many gay men who would beg to differ…and thankfully a growing number of straight men who have also discovered the joys of anal pleasure. *steps off soapbox*

Deliciously Dissident

Flouting  intolerant opinions is a hobby of mine. Above and beyond the ass itself, a lot people have judgments about pegging, from both sides of the dildo. If you are a man who likes pegging, clearly you must be gay, and if you are a woman who likes pegging, you wish you were a man. I love flying in the face of all those judgments and doing what I want just because I enjoy it. Sometimes I think that I gravitate towards kinkier stuff because there is a part of me that resists anyone telling me what I  should or shouldn’t do, most especially in the realm of sexual exploration. So if people view something as taboo – damn, that might be a hot thing to try! I am a bit of a rebel at heart. Does it give me a charge to know that if I told some of my friends about my proclivity for pegging, they would be shocked? Indeed it does. *smile*

The Visuals

The delectable vision of spreading those cheeks and sinking slowly into his ass…that is one of the hottest,  most amazingly arousing visuals I have ever seen….like, ever. Now I know why some of the kinkier dating sites that have amateur videos are overrun with clips of men holding a video camera pointing straight down as their cock is sinking into their woman who is on her hands and knees…I get it, guys! And from a different position, the look on his face when I am stroking my strap-on in and out…that surprised naked passion sort of OMG-what-the-fuck-are-you-doing-to-me-I-love-this look. It’s incomparable. His hands reaching back to pull his ass cheeks apart. Riding me and stroking his cock. So many visuals! Who says women aren’t as visual as men! If more women tried pegging perhaps the numbers would change.

My Pleasure

Do I get pleasure? Oh yes. Oh God, yes. Dripping throbbing, aching, clenching pleasure…without a doubt. I’m playing with how to orgasm while I am actually pegging my guy. Some women do…and I want to join them in that singular pleasure. There are dildos that offer a vibe in the base that are slated for experimentation…I’ll let you know how it goes. Might take a lot of practice…I don’t think he will mind.

Happy Pegging.

Ruby Ryder