‘The Woman’
This article was written before all the changes in the gender binary and pronoun usage. Inclusivity is intended, but I will leave this article in its original form.
For the Gentlemen…
Sort of like the cart before the horse…
Since diving dildo-first into exploring the world of pegging…one thing has really jumped out at me.
It is this…There are many, many of you men out there who want to be pegged, whether you are new to the experience or you have your own equipment in your dresser drawer. You dream of feeling that dildo slide into you, teasing you, filling you up, thrilling you. And you want to be used, fucked, lovingly pegged or hammered. You crave it, want it, need it and will beg for it! So you frequent any websites where interested women might be. Wow.
I guess what I am saying is I get that you guys who love pegging really love it. I mean really.
Now…I have witnessed the profound effect of pegging on my guy. He swoons with pleasure and gets pretty damn loud with passion. In fact he recently described his ass as “wanting and willing” (that man so knows how to sweet talk me). So, guys, I can understand your desire to regularly experience that intense degree of sexual bliss. Once you’ve had it…you want more. Like your first blow job. You might even obsess about it. I get it. The strength of your desire for pegging is intense.
Which brings me to…the methodology behind your approach of potential pegging partners.
First, I offer you an example of the worst approach I have ever personally experienced via email.
“your cock would look good in my hole”
I swear to God, just like that. No capitalization, no punctuation, nada. This approach is definitely not recommended if you are interested in finding a woman to peg you anytime in the next century.
From the woman’s point of view, here’s a hint, guys. Don’t pursue the toy with greater enthusiasm than you pursue the woman. We women who peg, yes, it’s nice to know how much you guys enjoy it…but it is also nice to feel like you find interest in us as people first and wearers of dildos second. Get to know us…meet us for coffee or dinner…have some conversations with us. Pursuing someone as primarily the wearer of a strap-on is quite rude; as if the only part that is important to you is satisfying your fantasy. (If you truly only want to experience pegging, and do not want a partner, just go find a professional.)
Please remember…There is a woman at the end of that strap-on!
An alternative method of finding a woman who pegs is to find a woman…..and turn her into a pegger. Here is a story from a friend of mine who did just that: “Vanilla to Pegger – One Man’s Story.”
Happy Pegging,
Ruby Ryder
